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Overcoming Attachment Difficulties

Overcoming attachment difficulties can seem insurmountable, but professional clinical psychological support offers effective strategies for understanding and resilience.

Difficulties bonding, getting close to others, relationship problems

It’s hard to get close to anyone” if you have been let down badly in the past or if you grew up without a strong (or with a difficult) bond between you and an adult (parent/other).

Why Do I Struggle Getting On With People?

You may find you have problems with close relationships with others now; perhaps you feel too vulnerable and anxious to allow yourself to get close, or perhaps you fear that people will leave you, will abandon you or treat you badly.

You may not have realised the depth of your problems or how they interfere in your life, until a specific trigger, e.g., the loss of a loved one, the birth/adoption of a child, or a feeling of “not quite fitting in” at work.

The problems may be well hidden from others but you are aware of having the problems now.

Problems may be at different levels, including affecting your beliefs, and how you view the nature of relationships, affecting your emotional, romantic and social life.

Can I See A Clinical Psychologist for Attachment Difficulties and Disorders?

Working through your fears with a trusted Clinical Psychologist in a course of appointments will help towards overcoming these issues. You will need to find someone whom you feel you can start to build up a good working relationship with, to help you consider these underlying issues.

After the assessment stage, you can discuss a clear contract with your Clinical Psychologist therapist, so you know the number of sessions/appointments you will be meeting for. This will be helpful for you to know where you stand (so you can work through to have a good ending to your therapy).

Does Cognitive Analytic Therapy Help For Problems Getting On With People?

Counselling for relationships, and couple therapy, may be helpful as well as one-to-one therapy for interpersonal problems. Cognitive Analytic Therapy for problems getting on with people can be helpful for many.

Psychologist Counselling For Attachment Difficulties

If you’re looking for an experienced psychologist offering counselling for Attachment Difficulties, our clinical Psychologists offer effective psychological Therapies.

You can contact us about available counselling appointments by clicking on the button below.

Jurai Darongkamas | Clinical Psychologist


Dr Jurai Darongkamas

Jurai is a Consultant Clinical Psychologist who worked in Mental Health in the National Health Service (NHS), 1986 – 2019.

She now works part time alongside select colleagues offering high quality Psychological Therapies privately.

She is an Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society (AFBPsS), an experienced trainer and supervisor; previously Lead in an NHS Trust for people with complex difficulties and Board Trustee.


This page has been written to provide a brief overview for the reader. It should not be used as a basis for any action until after obtaining a professional opinion about your unique difficulties, strengths, circumstances, life history, etc.

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External Resources

  • The British Association for Adoption and Fostering (BAAF) is a leading charity that provides information, advice, and support to those involved in adoption and fostering. They offer guidance on attachment difficulties and ways to overcome them.
  • The NSPCC have a section on attachment, what attachment theory is and why it’s important.
  • The Mental Health Foundation is a UK charity that aims to promote good mental health for all. They have a section on attachment and relationships, which includes information on overcoming attachment difficulties.
  • Psychology Today has an article on attachment and bonding

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Clinical Psychology: FAQs

Clinical psychology is the scientific study of the human mind and behaviour. Its principles and theories are applied to help individuals, couples, families, groups, and organisations.

Clinical Psychologists usually undergo 7-8 years of training, which includes obtaining a Psychology degree (usually 3 years), plus the doctoral degree in Clinical Psychology (usually 3 years).

Additionally, some relevant experience, such as working as an assistant psychologist, IAPT worker, nursing assistant, researcher, etc., is often required to secure a place on the Clinical Psychology training course.

Clinical Psychologists are trained in a wide range of psychological assessment, intervention, and therapies. They can offer a tailored approach to individuals, including integrative therapies, which combine two or more types of therapy in a theoretically coherent practical way.

The training of Clinical Psychologists is much more extensive than that of most Mental Health Counsellors. In addition to their foundational training, many Clinical Psychologists go on to receive specialist training in particular approaches.

We view each person as unique. Rather than use a label regarding which mental health problem you have, we work out with you what’s contributed/led to, the present difficulties and what’s the best way forward.

We offer a range of therapy approaches.

Sometimes, it is appropriate to offer an individualised, integrative approach (combining 2 or more in a theoretically coherent practical way).

We will advise you, out of many possible psychological approaches including:

To see one of our clinical psychologists, complete our brief, online form or call us on 0330 223 1844 for a free, no-obligation consultation where we will aim to help us fix a good day and time for you.

Click the following link below to see more information about the individual psychologists that work with us.

We see individuals, couples and families.

We see people over the internet with some in same-room appointments, for talking therapy or psychological therapy remotely using Zoom.

Psychological therapy has been shown to be effective on-line – it is more than counselling over the internet.

As well as psychologists based across the UK, e.g., in Birmingham, Staffordshire, Shropshire, London, North of England and other areas,

As seeing a Clinical Psychologist can be a very personal journey, you would normally first meet up to see if you can work together as client – psychologist, as two people.

The first, and any subsequent, session is charged at the rate for the psychologist you see.

The Clinical Psychologist will offer an assessment. That is, getting to know you to understand possible issues linked to how the difficulties started and how they persist.

This assessment will usually consist of asking you to share about your background, key family members (past and current), relationship history, and anything else you feel is significant.

How long you will meet for can be agreed between you and your Clinical Psychologist at the first /first few meeting/s depending on the help required, the clinical understanding reached and your preferences.

We would not offer to see you for longer than necessary.

Alternatively, you might choose to be seen for a few sessions (1-4) just for assessment.

After an assessment, you can be advised if psychological approaches could help you and the approach needed in the Clinical Psychologist’s opinion.

If there is availability, you will be sent some information about the psychologist. If there are no free appointment slots immediately, we will let you know how long a wait there is likely to be before an appointment becomes available.

Clinical Psychologists have a wide range of experience. Depending on your specific needs and which Psychologist you see, the cost is usually in the range of £100-£140 per appointment. It depends on which person you decide to meet.

We can be more specific once we have considered your particular presenting needs.

We will always let you know the exact cost before you agree to meet.

From time to time, we also offer classes (courses and workshops) to those interested in learning skills in a group setting and meeting others. These cover areas such as: self-esteem, confidence, understanding more about interactions with others, understanding “rules” from childhood.

Please email letting us know of your interest and/or ask the person you see for more information about this. When we have the dates for our next course, information will be posted here.

We would normally ask you for details of your GP. We will agree with you whether you would like us to write to your GP to let him/her know that you seeing a Clinical Psychologist. We would normally prefer to write.

We take your GP’s details because, should the situation dictate and we become concerned for you welfare, then we would have to let him/her know. As part of our duty of care, we aim to tell you that we are doing so first.

We would usually only break confidentiality where absolutely necessary, for example, if we were informed that a crime was to be committed.

You are entitled to make a complaint about any Clinical Psychologist you are unhappy with to either the Health and Care Professions Council (HCPC) and/or the professional association for Clinical Psychologists, the British Psychological Society.

(The former was set up for the protection of the public and potentially can strike someone off the register so they cannot practice again in future, if found guilty of misconduct).

Many professional organisations have published codes of conduct and code of ethics.

All individual practitioners should carry professional indemnity insurance for their work. You can ask to see a copy of their up to date certificate.

We hope, and expect, that you will receive an excellent service from our Clinical Psychologists.

However, in the event of you not being satisfied with the service you receive from your Clinical Psychologist, you have several options available to you, depending on your degree of dissatisfaction.

Please visit our complaints procedure page for more details.